Tag: Acting Out

  • Very Sobering…(click here, watch video, learn more)

    Very Sobering…(click here, watch video, learn more)

    Hello my Friends

    It’s time to WAKE UP

    and Admit we got a Problem!

    It doesn’t matter if you’re the USER or the SPOUSE or the CHILDREN…

    We ALL got a Problem!

    How would you like to FIND A SOLUTION?

    LET’S TALK!

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  • Join the Launch of the “21st Century Tour of the Mind”

    Join the Launch of the “21st Century Tour of the Mind”

    JOIN THE NEW “21st Century Tour of the Mind”

    Are you asking yourself any of the following questions:

    I’m sick and tired of feeling TRAPPED IN LUST. I’ve stopped before – had some clean days – but always seem to fall back into it again and again.  

    What can I do to finally STOP?!

    or

    I’ve been working on my LUST – What’s wrong with my BRAIN??

    or

     Is there any hope for me?!

    ANNOUNCING:

    PLEASE JOIN US FOR

    THE LAUNCH of – “21st Century Tour of the Mind”

    Just Launched on Monday October 15, 2018 

    8:30am EST with Cap’n Martin B BACK at the HELM with his trusted Lieutenants

    Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays!

    12 Noon with Duvid Chaim

    Note that Duvid Chaim’s Call is only on Monday and Wednesday this Cycle

    Tuesdays and Thursdays, Duvid Chaim is hosting a new call for Pornaholics

    The Conference Call In Number is

    US (641) 715-3836 or IS (076) 599-0060

    Participant Access Code 637207#

    You can join the group of over a Thousand Men who have been on “The Call” for the past 20 Cycles!

    That’s over 1,000,000 hours of new collective sobriety for just 10 extra days of individual Sobriety!

    For a whole bunch of useful details about the Conference Calls, please see this link:

    https://guardyoureyes.com/component/zoo/item/big-book-study-group

    We are going to strive to make this Cruise – Bigger and Better than ever –

    with more Veterans,

    more Chavrusahs,

    more Sponsors and

    more Guest Speakers.

    We will be enriching our Recovery Program with the latest and most effective

    Exercises and Life Changing Processes available.

    Open to MEN at ALL LEVELS

    Bring your Private Journal to take notes

    Please send an email to duvidchaim@gmail.com

    or gyemartinb@gmail.com 

    to let us know you are planning to be ON BOARD.

    Have you HAD ENOUGH? DON’T DESPAIR!!! 

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  • My LUST is SPINNING out of Control!

    My LUST is SPINNING out of Control!

    My Lust is SPINNING out of Control!

    SPECIAL GUEST SHARE by Big D.

    I was recently on Duvid Chaim’s Big Book Study Group call.  We were discussing the Power of Triggers.  One person asked whether different triggers cause different types of reactions.
    I thought about this question…and I think the answer is clearly “No.” From my experience, it doesn’t matter what the trigger is, I believe that all types of triggers lead to the same thing – acting out!  Take a look at the following picture:

    Each one of the marbles is a sexaholic. The funnel represents our lust addiction. It doesn’t matter if the marble entered the funnel from the top, bottom or sides.
    All the marbles are going to spin in the funnel until they go down the hole, in other words – “Acting Out!”
    In my Pre-Recovery days, I acted out almost every day. Every day I would tell myself that today will be different… But, to my dismay, everyday ended up with me acting out!
    For example, I would be on a train and notice a pretty woman.  I would try to look away. Then, more and more women would get on the train and I would look away a little less each time, and then I would stare. Then I found my lust spinning faster and faster..and lower in the funnel until I went down the hole!
    At work, I never sat down with the intent to look at porn.  I would get bored and end up looking at innocent YouTube videos…  I was determined to stop on my own, but I thought I’d look at just one more innocent video…and it didn’t take long before I was spinning uncontrollably faster and lower in the funnel until I went down the hole!
    In my Work in Recovery, I learned to stay away from triggers. And I started to prepare myself in advance for the triggering situations with a Plan of Action. On the train, now I choose to learn…I choose to concentrate on my dalet amos…I choose to look down when the train enters a station where lots of women get on…I reach out to Duvid Chaim.  Now when I’m at work, I get up and walk around, I read an article on Guard Your Eyes, or I’ll get a cup of coffee.  The point is that I’m making a conscious choice to be aware of what used to trigger me and now I make healthier choices that keep me sober.
    It’s very clear to me that we need to work on avoiding the triggers.  Once we are “edging” we will eventually be spinning in the funnel and we are going down the hole!

    Thanks for letting me share.

    (PS – if you have a personal story or would like to share your “Experience, Strength & Hope”, please email me to join others now appearing in our “Guests Shares”)
  • NEW ANNOUNCEMENT – Weekly Shabbos Parasha Message – This week: Beha’aloscha – What’s your favorite Whine??

    NEW ANNOUNCEMENT – Weekly Shabbos Parasha Message – This week: Beha’aloscha – What’s your favorite Whine??

    Parasha Beha’aloscha:

    The Complainers!

    We are are beginning a new weekly Series –

    “How this Parsha addresses the Struggler”

    Have you ever felt like life wasn’t treating you like you deserved?  Maybe it was spouse or your boss or your so called friends – Once again LIFE has let you down and you were full of Resentment of Fear!

    Check out Bamidbar Chapter 11 Verse 1 – which appears exactly after the “middle of the Torah” (with the inverted “nuns”).  It says as follows:

    ויהי העם כמתאננים

    The People took to seeking COMPLAINTS;

    it was evil in the ears of Hashem…

    The Ramban comments how when the People of Israel after leaving Sinai and receiving the Torah were about to venture into the great desolate and UNKNOWN wilderness, they grew frantic and acted like they had the right to COMPLAIN and bemoan their fate!

    The Sifre comments how right after they left the Spiritual High of G-d’s revelation at Mt. Sinai – how quickly the Compainers reverted back to their corrupt nature of their existence in Egypt!

    Let’s consider how this Message speaks to us...whether we find ourselves “lost on our Journey” thru life – complaining that we are lacking the money, the status, the love we want and expect.  Or we find ourselves full of Resentments and Fears, that we turn to our Drug of Choice – how quickly we revert to the ADDICTIVE behaviors we are trying to change!

    Are we not just like those in the desert who are freaked out about the unknown and the unmanageability of life?  Don’t we also feel like we deserve better?  And soon find ourselves running to our “Escape” and acting out!

    Take a close look at the Hebrew word for COMPLAINERS and look at these 3 letters inside  that are “אננ”

    Now take a look at the famous story of Yehuda and Tamar.  After Yehuda’ first son Er died after marrying Tamar, Yehuda asked his second son ONAN to marry Tamar.  What was ONAN’s selfish response?  As it says in Genesis Chapter 38, Verse 9, ONAN “SPILLED HIS SEED!”

    Now we can tie this all together – The story of the COMPLAINERS and ONAN!

    If we start COMPLAINING with little reason – or we are full of Selfishness, Resentment and Fear – we may ultimately fall into the habit of Masterbation!

    Isn’t time my friends that we Turn our Wills and our Lives over to the care of our Higher Power?

    And then we can finally live a life of Serenity, Acceptance and GRATITUDE!!

    SHABBAT SHALOM!!